How many times have you tried to make a decision about something but you have no idea which is the right way to go? Polonius says: “Above all, to your own self be true,” but isn’t that the most difficult thing? My friend Jim works for a drugs counselling service and he says that people get into trouble with drugs usually as a result of a series of wrong decisions.
So how do we get in touch with our inner voice? The one that clearly says: “texting that guy would be a big, big mistake”? How do we know that’s the true voice, and not the irritating voice of our best friend, who might actually fancy that guy and have an eye on him herself? How do we stop the insane and incessant mental chat-chat-chatter? In Soul Retrieval, Sandra Ingerman gives us the help we need to find the inner voice, and here I am paraphrasing her wildly:
Sit in a comfortable position that you can hold for ten minutes. Focus your intention to an area in the centre of your belly below your navel – the tanden – and imagine that your breath reaches down in there. Breathe four times. Now tell think about something you really love, perhaps a colour, a dessert, a particular flower. If you decide that the thing you really love today is Oreo Cheesecake, say aloud: “I love Oreo Cheesecake.” Say it a few times. Notice how your body reacts. Perhaps you will shiver, perhaps you will get a warm sensation in your belly, or your neck.
Now stand up. Walk around , do some yoga, some laundry folding or hanging up, a little hoovering, for about ten minutes, then go back to where you were in your comfortable place and sit down again. Relax, and concentrate your breathing as you did the first time. When you feel relaxed and concentrated, say aloud: “I hate Oreo Cheesecake” or whatever it is you said the first time. Say it with conviction a few times. Find the reaction your body has to this lie. Do you have a burning feeling? A tightness? Some ache? That’s the feeling your body makes when you are lying to yourself. Notice and remember it for future use.
Now, it’s easy to know when you are lying to yourself, or whether you are telling the truth. With this kind of whole body dousing, decisions that benefit you in a real way should come easier. What do you think? Have you tried this? Did it work? Tell us in the comment box below.